The first year we were here I put in a vegetable garden the way you do when you have a degree in plant sciences and no sense at all. Straight rows. A plan on graph paper. Things that wanted full sun planted in a yard that gets about five hours of it in June and considerably less once the oaks leaf out. I lost nearly all of it and blamed the soil, which was not the problem.
What I know now is that this yard has opinions. The back corner stays wet for two days after rain and there is no amending that away. The strip along the fence bakes. Anything in the bed nearest the house gets found by deer in August, every single year, no matter what I read about marigolds. You can spend a long time treating those things as obstacles, and I did.
The garden teaches patience or it teaches nothing.
Somewhere around year twelve I started planting what the yard already wanted. Ferns and hostas in the wet corner. Rosemary and thyme along the hot fence, in pots, where the drainage does what I cannot. Tomatoes in the only bed that gets a real afternoon, staked higher than seems necessary, because the wind comes down off the ridge in July and it does not care about my stakes.
The garden got better almost immediately, which was humbling. Seventeen years and the biggest improvement came from paying attention rather than trying harder.
My husband points out that I still buy seeds for things that have never once worked here. That is true. There is a packet of melon seed in the drawer right now that has no business being there, and I will probably plant it in May, and it will probably come to nothing. Some of this is not about the yield.
I am not a master gardener and nothing here is extension-service advice. This is one yard, in one climate, written down as it happens — heather@theusualgood.com.